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Preparing for the Home Stretch: What to Expect in the Third Trimester as a Surrogate

You’ve made it to the third trimester—congratulations! The final months of your surrogacy journey are full of excitement, anticipation, and a few physical and emotional changes as delivery approaches.

We know this stage can feel like a mix of emotions. You’re carrying someone else’s dream, preparing for birth, and getting ready to say goodbye to the pregnancy. Here’s what to expect and how to take care of yourself during the home stretch.

Physical Changes in the Third Trimester

As your due date approaches, your body continues to work hard to support the growing baby. You may notice:

  • Increased fatigue: Carrying a full-term pregnancy can be tiring. Listen to your body and rest often.

  • Back or pelvic discomfort: Gentle stretching, warm baths, or prenatal yoga may help.

  • Shortness of breath: The baby’s position can make breathing a bit harder—try sitting upright or sleeping propped with pillows.

  • Braxton Hicks contractions: These “practice” contractions are common but should not be painful or regular.

Staying hydrated, eating well, and taking light walks can ease many of these symptoms. Always talk with your doctor about anything that feels unusual.

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Emotional Preparation

Many surrogates feel a wave of emotions during the third trimester—excitement, pride, and sometimes sadness or anxiety about the upcoming birth. These feelings are normal.

You may also find yourself thinking about:

  • The delivery: What will it be like? Who will be in the room?

  • The intended parents: How will they feel when they meet their baby?

  • Your own recovery: How will your body and emotions feel postpartum?

Try journaling or talking with your support team about your feelings. Staying connected with your intended parents during this stage can also help keep everyone on the same page emotionally.

Getting Ready for Delivery

Your agency and medical team will guide you through logistics, but here are a few things to plan ahead for:

  • Delivery Plan: Confirm who will be present during labor and delivery, and how handoff moments will happen.

  • Travel & Hospital Arrangements: Make sure your hospital bag is ready, and travel plans (if needed) are finalized.

  • Legal Documents: Ensure all contracts and parentage orders are complete and on file.

  • Support System: Arrange for family, friends, or your support coordinator to be available for help during recovery.

Remember, your comfort matters too. The delivery is a shared milestone, and your needs are just as important as everyone else’s.

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After Delivery: What Comes Next

The time immediately after birth can be emotional and rewarding. Some surrogates feel an incredible sense of joy and closure, while others experience mixed emotions. Take time to rest, recover, and honor your experience.

Most importantly, lean on your support network—your family, agency, and the Surrogacy Mentor community are here for you every step of the way.

Final Thoughts

The third trimester marks the finish line of an incredible journey. As you prepare for delivery, focus on rest, communication, and emotional well-being. You’ve done something extraordinary—helping another family grow through love, compassion, and strength.

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