The Real Timeline of Your Surrogacy Journey
One of the most common questions we hear at Surrogacy Mentor is:
“How long does a surrogacy journey actually take?”
It’s an important question—and one that doesn’t always have a simple answer. While every surrogacy journey is unique, most follow a similar path with familiar milestones along the way. Understanding the timeline can help reduce stress, set realistic expectations, and allow everyone involved to feel more confident and prepared.
Below, we break down the realistic timeline of a surrogacy journey, from the very first application to the day a baby is born.
Step 1: Learning About Surrogacy & Applying (1–2 Weeks)
Every surrogacy journey begins with education. This is the stage where potential surrogates or intended parents start learning what surrogacy truly involves and whether it’s the right fit for their lives.
During this phase, you may:
Complete an initial application or inquiry form
Attend an informational call or consultation
Review basic eligibility requirements
Ask questions and explore expectations
This step may feel simple, but it’s foundational. Taking time here helps ensure everyone enters the process with clarity and intention.
Step 2: Screening & Medical Record Review (4–8 Weeks)
Once an application is approved, the screening process begins. This phase is designed to protect the health, safety, and emotional well-being of everyone involved.
For surrogates, this may include:
Review of prior pregnancy and delivery records
Medical evaluations and lab work
Psychological screening
Background checks
For intended parents, this may include:
Fertility clinic consultations
Psychological evaluations
Financial and legal preparation
While this stage can take longer than expected, it plays a critical role in creating a healthy and ethical surrogacy journey.
Step 3: Matching With the Right Fit (2–12 Weeks)
Matching is about more than logistics—it’s about connection, trust, and alignment.
During this stage, surrogates and intended parents:
Review profiles and backgrounds
Discuss values, expectations, and communication preferences
Talk through topics like pregnancy updates, boundaries, and delivery plans
Some matches happen quickly, while others take more time. There is no “right” pace—what matters most is finding the right fit for everyone involved.
Step 4: Legal Contracts & Clearances (3–8 Weeks)
Once both parties agree to move forward, the legal process begins.
This phase includes:
Drafting and reviewing the surrogacy agreement
Independent legal representation for surrogates and intended parents
Final medical and psychological clearances
Legal contracts provide clarity, protection, and peace of mind. Although it can feel paperwork-heavy, this step lays the groundwork for a smooth and respectful journey.
Step 5: Medical Cycle & Embryo Transfer (4–8 Weeks)
After contracts are signed, the medical process begins.
This stage may include:
Medication protocols and monitoring appointments
Coordination with the fertility clinic
Embryo transfer
Pregnancy confirmation through bloodwork
Waiting during this phase can be emotionally challenging. Support, patience, and open communication are especially important here.
Step 6: Pregnancy & Ongoing Support (Approximately 9 Months)
Once pregnancy is confirmed, the journey enters a familiar—but still unique—phase.
Throughout the pregnancy:
Routine prenatal care continues
Communication between surrogate and intended parents evolves
Birth plans and delivery preferences are discussed
Emotional, logistical, and practical support remains ongoing
This stage is where trust, respect, and collaboration truly come to life.
Step 7: Delivery & Post-Birth Transition
The final stage of the surrogacy journey is both joyful and emotional.
After delivery:
Legal parentage steps are finalized
Postpartum recovery and support are prioritized
Relationships transition into a new chapter
Each journey ends differently, but all deserve care, appreciation, and thoughtful closure.
How Long Does a Surrogacy Journey Take?
On average, a full surrogacy journey from initial application to your ultimate delivery can take approximately 15 to 24 months.
The timeline may vary based on:
Medical history and screening results
Matching timelines
Legal processes
Clinic availability
Individual circumstances
Flexibility and patience go a long way during this process.
Final Thoughts
Surrogacy is not a straight line—and that’s okay. Understanding the timeline helps set expectations, reduce uncertainty, and create space for compassion along the way.
At Surrogacy Mentor, we believe that education empowers better journeys—for surrogates, intended parents, and the families they help create.
You’re not just following a timeline. You’re building something extraordinary.
